Hot n Horny UNTIL the clothes come off

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Registered: 05-13-2007
Hot n Horny UNTIL the clothes come off
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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 7:42am

Situation:
BF can get me so hot and horny ad wet but for SOME reason when the clothes come off (or dont come off) and he tries to stimulate me with his fingers i cant cum. it feels soooo good but i only know one way to cum and i feel inadequate even tho i know i shouldnt..i cant even get MYSELF to cum when i masturbate with my fingers.. BF is so supportive of this but i feel bad that i can't "perform" for him..sigh. isnt it frustrating? any advice would be very much appreciated.. i always thought i had a high libido because i am constantly lusty and i can cum so easily when i know how but this is just drivin me nuts lol.. i feel like wat if i only know one way to orgasm and i cant ever be able to another way..although that is probably not true.. and i am feeling like i am desensitizing myself to other ways to orgasm by continueing to cum my ONE way..

thanks :)

~Acey

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 8:15am

This is a good site to visit: http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/fr_index.htm

"i feel like wat if i only know one way to orgasm and i cant ever be able to another way"

"BF is so supportive of this but i feel bad that i can't "perform" for him..sigh. "

Sounds like you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself. Sex/love making shouldn't be about performance but enjoying each other. The more you focus on performance, I think the morely likely it will be that you won't be able to relax and enjoy yourself enough to reach orgasm.

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Registered: 05-13-2007
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 2:37pm

thank u Trying for replying. I guess i AM a little hard on myself.. i wonder if there is nething like trying too hard to cum that u cant and are thinking about it too hard heh.. i know about the clitoris website. thanks for the reference :) when this "problem" ends up happening i end up just doing watever i can to make BF satisfied..ill look into the clitoris website more and see if i can find out more about my body and myself..

~Acey

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 2:58pm
Hehe absolutely! Even my wife mentiones from time to time how she has to relax herself and we've been together over twenties. Just so you know you aren't alone and this is common.