HSDD

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HSDD
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Mon, 10-19-2009 - 9:31pm

Hello,


any one been diagnosed

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Registered: 02-21-2003
In reply to: debbzy
Mon, 10-19-2009 - 9:46pm

Ii Debbzy,

Good to see you again on the board. Just want to say that I've never quite bought into the label of HSDD (hypoactive sexual desire disorder). When did diversity become a diagnosis? Guess I missed the memo...

F.

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Registered: 03-02-2005
In reply to: debbzy
Thu, 10-22-2009 - 9:10pm

hi

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Registered: 02-03-2009
In reply to: debbzy
Fri, 10-23-2009 - 5:20am
...oh my gosh!!!!...I so agree...
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Registered: 05-04-2006
In reply to: debbzy
Fri, 10-23-2009 - 1:10pm

This was the diagnosis I got at my OB/gyn's office. She didn't offer any real options for treatment. Said she sometimes got involved with research projects and I should check with her office regularly to see if one became available.

I pretty much felt marginalized, like, "oh well, you don't want sex and it upsets you and is completely destroying your relationship, that sucks for you"

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Registered: 12-03-2002
In reply to: debbzy
Wed, 10-28-2009 - 8:46am

That's what cracks me up about this board. Those that don't believe HSDD is real. It's a play by the pharmas. I guess so is ED.

Here's my 2 cents. If you once had a relatively high libido and enjoyed sex often, and this libido went away, then yes you may fall under the HSDD umbrella. Now before the LL lynch mob starts to gather hear me out. If on the other hand you never had a real interest in sex and could take it or leave it or had very little desire then that is your constitution period! Some people don't like to drink, party or watch football. There are even some people who don't like chocolate. As the French say viva le diferance!

Now back to the people who lost their libido. If you truly had a libido and now have no desire for sex then, HSDD is real. Oh yes some will say well that's just nature taking its course. Thats ok. No need to dye your hair when it turns grey, or take vitamins or take other measures to prolong health and life. After all it's only nature taking its course.

There you go! My two cents. You can chose to look at it anyway you want. Some people don't see it as a problem and others do.

If the ramification of changes within your relationships don't really matter then live long and prosper. If they do and you want to do something about it there may me many different options for you. It all depends on how you see it.

Dirty

Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin
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Registered: 12-06-2007
In reply to: debbzy
Thu, 10-29-2009 - 12:13pm
Do you think it is impossible that a person with a constitutionally low libido might feel a higher sex drive during periods of time that are relatively short in comparison to a lifetime? Examples might be the beginning of a new relationship and such.
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Registered: 03-02-2005
In reply to: debbzy
Thu, 10-29-2009 - 11:25pm

hey Dirty!! u still here? u haven't changed a bit.

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Registered: 12-03-2002
In reply to: debbzy
Fri, 10-30-2009 - 8:29am

Yea I'm still around.

I poke my head in and out sometimes. If something inspires me to reply I do.

That sucks about the being turned down. Was that some kind of clinical trial? Or as I call it cynical trial... That's where they stack the odd in their favor.

So you are interested in recapturing your libido? Other than drugs have you pursued other routes? Feel free to PM me. I may be able to offer some guidance. You know how I feel about that its just nature thing... Maybe swine flue is just natures way of tweaking the population. Don't know why we would want to mess with that.. hee hee hee

Dirty

Dirty

Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin
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Registered: 03-02-2005
In reply to: debbzy
Fri, 10-30-2009 - 8:55pm

LOL yes,, everything is a clinic trial.


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Registered: 12-03-2002
In reply to: debbzy
Fri, 10-30-2009 - 11:36pm

>>Do you think it is impossible that a person with a >>constitutionally low libido might feel a higher sex drive during >>periods of time that are relatively short in comparison to a >>lifetime? Examples might be the beginning of a new relationship >>and such.

I think that if a person is truly a constitutional LL then it is very unlikely for them to have a high sex drive at any time. Just like it is unlikely that a gay person have a heterosexual drive.
In either case the person may go along with it and may fool themselves as well as their partner because it is whats done but in all likely hood do not truly have the sexual desire.

I somewhat believe that sexual desire is something you either have or you don't have. That is to say we have it even when we don't have a mate which is one of the driving forces for finding a mate. With a constitution LL that force may not be there.

On the other hand they may face the social pressures of having a mate. So they fool themselves and their new mates. Eventually they can no longer keep up he facade and he ML makes its way into the picture.

Just IMHO. I do not believe that this applies to those who once had a HL and then lost it. Something different there.

Dirty

Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin

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