I'm new here, but I've read a bunch of
I think it's hard on both, the LL and the HL to understand each other.
you know, I just don't understand why it should be considered important at all.
>>I don't get it. Why is ok and expected for HL to want sex (which >>requires much more work on the part of the LL), but it doesn't >>seem to be ok for the LL to NOT want to have sex. As far as I'm >>concerned can't you just ...handle it yourself? why do you need >>someone else to do that for you?
I think if you have read these posts you will find that in many cases the LL did change. Went from HL to LL, there in you'll find where the problems begin.
Were you LL from the beginning? Did you let you SO know this? If so you have a very valid point.
I can't speak for everyone, but in a relationship, especiall a marriage.. my goal is not just to orgasm. The intimacy, both emotional, physical, and for some spiritual involved cannot be replaced by "taking care of yourself".
There are certain times where, for me, its just.. a needed release, or sress relief. But more ofthen than not, I want to share myself with my wife, show her passion, intimacy, trust, desire, and feel those feelings and wants and gift given to me.
It is so much more than a climax.