I have a low sex drive, or really no sex drive

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Registered: 11-11-2011
I have a low sex drive, or really no sex drive
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Fri, 11-11-2011 - 3:22pm

In my 20's I really had no interest in having sex with my husband, it was not about his performance, it was me.

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Registered: 10-31-2009
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 8:05pm
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Registered: 10-10-2011
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 7:25pm

Wow, really mixed advice here. One says that duty sex is the worst and the other says to offer to have it regularly even if its unwanted in exchange for having the bills paid.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Fri, 12-02-2011 - 3:43pm
So just tell him the truth. You are not attracted to him sexually. The sex you guys have doesn't do anything for you. You cringe at the thought of doing it with him. But you are willing to tolerate doing it with him every few days if he will continue to pay your bills and provide some security and stability.

Then see if HE wants to stay married.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Fri, 11-25-2011 - 11:33am
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Registered: 12-10-2009
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 7:42am

Good luck with your painful choice.

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Registered: 11-11-2011
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 4:04pm

Thank you for your response.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2011
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 4:01pm

Thank you for your response, it is appreciated.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2011
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 3:58pm

Not for the right reasons.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2011
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 3:55pm

I do appreciate your response and you are absolutely correct.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2011
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 3:53pm

I do appreciate a man's reponse to this issue, thank you for responding.