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|Fri, 07-17-2009 - 9:20pm|
Our sex life is the ONLY problem in our relationship. We are perfectly matched. We are best friends, and we get along great. We feel like we complete each other. At first, we has sex ALL the time, but we only saw each other once a week, if that, because we lived about an hour apart and both worked full time long hour jobs.
We moved in together about 7 months ago, and its been great other than our sex life has taken a nose dive. Everything was cool for a while, then after about 3 months here two big events happened ... one of my dogs was killed (got out of the yard and hit by a car to which I feel slightly responsible) and my boyfriend hurt himself tremendously at work and was going through therapy for a lower back injury. Therefore because of that we really couldn't have sex.
Eventually after therapy, his back is better, although he can never go back to doing construction like he was or he will reinjure it. Although he really aspires to be a career musician so now he just works on his music and I mostly support us. I also go to school full time and volunteer with a couple charities. Between my work and school schedule, and his gig schedule, I rarely find a time where I WANT to have sex. Mostly I have stuff to do or just want to flat out sleep. To him, this is a huge problem. To me, not so much.
He says he's very sexual, and starts to feel insecure if I "don't want him." But also our sex has gotten very weird ... he'll just want to jump right into it, or go for a marathon session and I need a little more foreplay and am also done after about my first or second "boom." It starts to hurt, and he's still not done. I've never been with a guy where I get off before him, but that is the case here. He rarely gets off through intercourse. And if he does we have to go forever to get there and by then it hurts pretty bad to me and I'm not enjoying it at all.
This is not a deal breaker by any means for us, we know we're the ones for each other. But it would be nice to work this out. Any suggestions?