I think I know why, but how do I fix it?
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|Sat, 01-20-2007 - 12:39pm|
My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for not even a whole year yet, and for most of the relationship we've had horribly mismatched libidos... He wants it all the time and for a looong time, I don't want it at all. When I do actually give in, I enjoy it, but I want it over with as soon as I've had an orgasm. Or pretended to.
He's also the type that likes to just jump right into sex, while I NEED some type of foreplay to even get remotely ready. We tend to have a lot of conflict about just about everything, so the relationship definitely has more than its fair share of stress.
The problem is, he gets really, really angry at me when I don't have sex with him. If we go a while without it, he adjusts and doesn't bother me, but when we do have sex, he goes right back to wanting it every night and getting angry if I don't.
We have three children under the age of 6, the youngest isn't even a year, and I'm still nursing, so my hormones STILL aren't normal. But I'm only 23... I feel like I shouldn't have this problem. My husband calls me an old woman because I'm not "adventurous" and have no desire to be. I just want to have a normal sexual relationship with my husband. This has caused so many problems and I just want it to go away. I want to feel normal. Please help...