im new.. VERY low Libido..
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|Sun, 07-15-2007 - 11:20pm|
well i am new here.. i finally had to find somewhere to be with people who understand my lack of sex drive.. and i mean none.. we went 2 months.. I try to do it once a week for him, but it doesn't always happen.... I have gotten to where i just don't go to bed at the same time cuz it isn't there for me.. we have an 11 and a 3 year old.. I am 30,in pretty good shape.. fairly happy with life, I do house partys just a few nights a week, so i am home during the day.. I don't know whats wrong..
i want to want sex.. I don't know how to do that though.. we have a pretty hectic/busy life my husband just got a promotion and starts tomorrow, and that has really been stressing him out.. we are on the go all the time.. we just got our 3 year old in her own bed, so maybe that will help.. but I don't have the desire.. and for the most part, i just don't do it.. i feel bad, after he goes to bed that maybe i should to, but i don't want sex.. i love him, i don't want anyone else.. but i don't want sex.. and once we start, only about half the time I orgasm.. so i will fake, cuz i don't want him upset and i want to get it over.. i love to snuggle and lay close to him, but i hate when his hands start wandering..
I have been to my family dr. who tried wellbutrin, even though i didn't think i was depressed.. i hated the side effects.. I am not on any hormonal BC, my gyno did hormonal blood tests.. my friends don't get it here.. i want intimacy with my husband.. but I just don't have it and don't know what to do... Luckily.. he doesn't really pressure at all. but as his wife i feel terrible.. i feel like he has the right to go elsewhere.. and i don't want that to happen..
Suggestions.. help.. (sorry i am longwinded..)