I'm really glad
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|Tue, 10-23-2007 - 3:03pm|
That I found this board. Unfortunately, I put my initial post in the midst of the bickering above, and so I don't think the ones I wanted to hear my story did.
My Dh and I were a ML couple for years. I was the LL and he was the HL. All my adult life, I actually thought that I was the only person in the world who wasn't crazy about sex. I would have tried anything to increase my sex drive. I decided that I must be a freak of nature, broken somehow, but deep down, I never really felt broken. I enjoyed sex once in awhile, but we had sex lots. I knew frequent sex was what he wanted and I loved him enough to do what he wanted, and he loved me enough not to have a bunch of expectations. I think (I hope) he finally understood, after much heart ache and tears (for BOTH of us), that I couldn't understand his sex drive anymore than I could understand mine. We kinda figured that together was more important than being wright or wrong. Now we have found that our sex drives have evened out, his got less and mine got more. And I think that happens a lot to couples as the years go by. But I still felt like a freak. It was such a weight lifted off my shoulders just to find there are, indeed, others like me.
I tried before to say that there is a book I found (while reading the reviews for a book someone from another board recommended), called "I'd Rather Eat Chocolate--learning to love your Low Libido " by Joan Sewell that seems like it would be quite good. Anyone familiar with it?
Oh, one more thing. I think the reason there are not more LL on these boards is because LL's, like me, don't think about sex much when were not having it, so we don't usually seek out sex discussions.