insensitive jerk

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Registered: 02-17-2008
insensitive jerk
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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 2:33am

You might think that I’m talking about my DH; nope wrong! I’m talking about me. At the beginning of our relationship I was very unwilling to open up. I didn’t want to tell him about my past boyfriends/relationships/experiences. I don’t have a great sexual past. It’s filled with heartache and me feeling like a disgusting whore. After FINALLY talking to my husband I feel better about me as a person. I don’t feel

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Registered: 01-04-2006
In reply to: tootslpz
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 6:28pm

"I need help. I need to know how to get all these negative thoughts about myself and about sex out of my head so I can enjoy my husband and my marriage. "


There are plenty of books out there that deal with self esteem or you may want to see a professional especially because of the why you feel about yourself sexually.

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Registered: 03-02-2000
In reply to: tootslpz
Fri, 04-04-2008 - 1:31am

I'm not much for self-help books.

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Registered: 02-17-2008
In reply to: tootslpz
Fri, 04-04-2008 - 9:58am
Thanks! I've already made an appointment with my doctor...if she can't help a shrink is the next step.
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Registered: 04-28-2008
In reply to: tootslpz
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 6:10pm

My husband and I have started reading “Sex Starved Marriage”; we’ve heard so many good things about it on iVillage. After getting through half of the book we/I came to the conclusion that it’s hard for me to be sexual b/c I don’t feel sexy. He says he thinks I'm sexy & hot but I don't feel it.


Cut and paste this and let your husband read it:


Your husband has a strong influence on how sexy you feel by what he says and does with you. I know that recently I've made my wife begin to feel that she is sexy, and to feel more like a woman, by how I've been treating her. When I see her in jeans that make her ass look nice, I tell her so. I try not to be crude, but to let her know that I find her sexy. Whenever I see her and the thought enters my head that she looks good, I make sure to let her know that I find her attractive. I was never that way before, but it really isn't hard to say "dayum you look hot!" or "You look really sexy in that outfit" or "you look so beautiful in those jeans...but you'd look even better out of them!" when those thoughts enter my head. It's become habit now, and frankly it's nice to be able to say that sort of thing to my wife. Smacking her butt every now and then and giving her a naughty grin doesn't hurt either. ;)


I make it a point to greet her with "hey gorgeous" or something similar to let her know that I DO think she's beautiful.


Of course, treating your spouse that way in return and letting him know how sexy you think HE

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Registered: 02-17-2008
In reply to: tootslpz
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 7:08pm

Hi thanks for your reply.


My DH actually does tell me things like that, I don't believe him. The way he says it feels like he's joking. I haven't told him that, so I think it's about time I do.


I've been off the pill for a month now and things in the libido department are looking better. I don't know if that's TMI.


Thanks again for your reply, not many people took the time.

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Registered: 11-07-2007
In reply to: tootslpz
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 8:01am

<< My DH actually does tell me things like that, I don't believe him. The way he says it feels like he's joking. I haven't told him that, so I think it's about time I do. >>


Yes, its about time that you do.