I've Lost That Lovin Feelin
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|Wed, 12-27-2006 - 3:33pm|
I think I've got two problems: lost libido and something in that general area isn't working right.
I am in my early 40s and met my husband 3 years ago when I was pretty much a wild woman sexually. He's older than I and basically waited until I wore myself out before we connected. Our relationship ran hot and cold for a while but we married in 2005. After four months we separated. Eight months after separating we reconciled, went through marriage counseling and everything. In the time that we were apart, my sex drive started to deteriorate but I didn't notice how badly because I was dealing with too many emotional issues due to the separation. Occasionally I did notice that I didn't have the drive that I'd had before but I wasn't overly concerned about it. In the time that we were apart, my blood pressure problems worsened and my medications changed and increased. Shortly after we got back together I found out that I have rheumatoid arthritis. So I'm also taking meds for that. I had a hysterectomy 12 years ago and have been on estrogen ever since without a problem but now I'm starting to have hot flashes as well. I'm thinking that the medications I'm on have something to do with the libido problems but when I look up their possible side effects, I don't see anything at all about the libido. I want to make a doctor appointment to discuss this but I'm not even sure which doctor to discuss this with: internal medicine or my gynecologist? The list of medications I currently take are prednesone, relafen, plaquenil, procardia, benicar hct and toprol xl and estradiol.
My husband is very patient about this and he doesn't complain but I'm very unhappy. Despite an active sex life, I never had an orgasm until I was 40 years old and I want more! One other thing, my low libido isn't the only problem. I tried using one of my surefire toys but even that takes 4 times as long to work and only works once now instead of the way it used to work.
Help me please!