learn to like it
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|Fri, 02-23-2007 - 9:58am|
I had one thing I wanted to address/ask a question about that I have seen in a few threads. LLs tend to say they cannot learn to like it, as it is like anything else that you don't like, chocolate cake was one example I remember. The way I have always seen this, and I will admit I am HL, so it might not be the same way, that's why I am asking, is you are not learning to like sex itself, but learning to like and crave the pleasure you are giving your SO. I used this example a long time ago, but with so many new people on the board, I thought I would throw it out there again.
My DH LOVES football. I have never cared much for football. I am more of a baseball kind of girl. Well when we were first together he would watch football, I would go do something else. Then one Sunday out of some odd bf/gf commitment I sat down and watched a game with him and acted like I wanted to be there watching the game with him, even though I could think of a million other places I would rather be. He seemed so happy and so excited that I was asking questions and participating in his favorite hobby, that I started to actually get into it. No I have never learned to love football. If we were to divorce or something happened to my DH, I doubt I would watch football again. However, I have over the years learned to love watching football with him, because of the closeness it brings to him. Isn't this what marriage is all about? Sharing in what brings the other partner joy?
So is sex different than this example? how?