LL and sexual hangups

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LL and sexual hangups
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Sat, 07-11-2009 - 9:34am

It seems clear to me from reading these boards and other materials that LLs are more prone to sexual hangups than HLs. The question is, which comes first? Do the hangups inhibit libido, or does low libido allow the hangups to flourish? (One of my theories is that we all start out with some sexual hangups, but the force of HL is powerful enough to neutralize or mask them.)

I'm envious of (and irrationally annoyed at) people who have no sexual hangups. Pungent breath, stringy saliva, vaginal slime, and the rank odours coming out of sexual and anal orifices are self-evidently aversive to me. I wish I felt otherwise, but wishin' ain't fishin'.

Do you have any sexual hangups? Have you ever had them? If so, how do you think they affected your sexual interactions? Do you think it's possible to overcome them?

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Registered: 12-03-2002
Sat, 07-11-2009 - 8:45pm

>>Pungent breath, stringy saliva, vaginal slime, and the rank odours >>coming out of sexual and anal orifices are self-evidently aversive >>to me.

Good grief woman! What kind of people have you been having sex with?

Rank odors.. That explains your view on sex. Maybe you should try someone who bathes regularly.

Dirty

Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin
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Sat, 07-11-2009 - 9:03pm

so maybe HL's have poor vision and no sense of smell?

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Registered: 02-18-2008
Sat, 07-11-2009 - 10:30pm

I was reading about something like this. It's sort of like eating escargo (snails). It sounds kind of icky but then you try it and it tastes really good, so you enjoy doing it. Sex is like that. When you first hear about it, it sounds so weird (kids wonder why anyone would do that) but then you try it and really like it so you keep doing it.


Perhaps the LLs don't have enough good sex experiences that in time they start to get turned off by the whole rubbing wet and juicy parts together.

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Registered: 04-28-2009
Sun, 07-12-2009 - 10:07pm

Pungent breath, stringy saliva, vaginal slime, and the rank odours coming out of sexual and anal orifices are self-evidently aversive to me.


Before I lost my virginity, these things really bothered me although I never really got close enough to any orifice to be able to say whether or not it had a rank odour. I was, however, kissed by a boy at university and it was so like having a hot mango smooshed all over my mouth that it was a year before I kissed anyone else.


And then my hormones kicked in, my must-have-sex-now chemicals, lots of testosterone.

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Registered: 12-03-2002
Mon, 07-13-2009 - 8:58am

What's wrong with being smooshed with hot mango? It actually sounds kind of kinky ti me.

Dirty

Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin
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Mon, 07-13-2009 - 11:34am

Interesting thoughts, HB. I can't speak for anyone else, but I don't think my particular aversions have much to do with a heightened sense of smell. (I have a relatively poor one.) It's more the IDEA of the things (slime, germs, odors emanating from the stomach and mingling with the breath) that turns me off. I once had my T levels tested and they were bang-on average, so I don't know why the molecules circulating in my bloodstream never translated into must-have-now sexual urges.

F.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Mon, 07-13-2009 - 11:40am

>> I once had my T levels tested and they were bang-on average, so I don't know why the molecules circulating in my bloodstream never translated into must-have-now sexual urges.<<

I can cast some light on this, although it might be more science than some people want...

Testosterone exists in the body in several forms, some are usable and some are not. Some testosterone gets converted to estrogen. How long T stays in useable forms before being converted can be a culprit here. Additionally everyone has receptors for the forms of T that are usable in different concentrations in different areas of the body. This is why some people grow thick body hair, and others do not even with the same T level present. I am sure the same is true in the brain, and sexual organs. Number of receptors, sensitivity of said receptors, and amount of usable T available all factor in. It's a wildly complicated system that affects a lot of things throughout the body. Then when you add in the competitive nature of estrogen in the body and other environmental things that can supress/enhance/alter hormones it becomes way too complex to even wrap one's head around.

roo and snowy siggie
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Registered: 12-03-2002
Mon, 07-13-2009 - 12:19pm

Ok sounds simple so why can't it be fixed? LOL
How is it then that users of Ex report such a big turn on? I wonder if it has the same effect on LL people?

Dirty

Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin
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Registered: 05-04-2006
Mon, 07-13-2009 - 12:23pm

Umm, I am not sure what Ex is.....but if it is a street drug, my scientific knowledge does not extend to that, mostly it just covers the biological workings of the body itself, not so much drugs of any kind, legal or otherwise, although I do understand the mechanisms of action of some prescription meds.

Sorry, no timothy leary here....

roo and snowy siggie
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Mon, 07-13-2009 - 12:59pm
I think he means ecstacy.

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