Found on another board - thought it might interest some
Remember, this is the men's explanation of why they are LL.
When you see it coming, duck!
The article seems to be perpetuating the myth that true (constitutional) LL doesn't exist in men. As I've stated before, I believe it's rarer than in women, but that it certainly does exist. Here are my own 5 categories of LL:
1. The constitutional LL: does not desire, fantasize or get aroused by sex with regularity or intensity.
2. The conditional LL: is not interested in sex except under a limited set of conditions (e.g., enacting a fetish or specific scenario, doing it with an stranger or "bad boy/girl"). May turn to porn/masturbation to satisfy specific sexual interests.
3. The relational LL: predictably loses sexual interest in long-term relationships. May turn to porn/masturbation for sexual gratification.
4. The reactive LL: reacts to life stressors or perceived relationship imbalances (e.g., carrying too much of the housework load) by shutting down sexually.
5. The medical LL: has a clear medical cause for the LL (e.g., hormone deficit or imbalance, longstanding diabetes, drugs such as oral contraceptives or antidepressants).
Edited to add: it goes without saying that these categories can overlap.
Good list, FLM, but you should make note that tese categories can exist in combinations as well, and LL may be caused by multiple categories at once or throughout a span of time.
Yes, absolutely, the categories overlap. (I had the same thought while writing them out and should have mentioned it in the post.)
I did actually consider this category when writing out the list, but chose not to include it because it doesn't reflect a PATTERN -- just loss of interest in a specific person, which can happen to anyone.
Allow me to chime in on the FLM praise. =)
There were other reasons listed too ...
I find it interesting that the article is attacked as being "very unfair", when all it puports to be is a poll of what people claim as the reasons.
As the poll noted, both sexes are most comfortable blaming their partners.