LLs: Does your SO talk about ML?

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Registered: 08-16-2003
LLs: Does your SO talk about ML?
Fri, 10-26-2007 - 5:39pm

Although my DW refuses to talk about our ML with me or anyone (which is her right), she also gets VERY upset at the thought of me talking to my friends/others about our issues. I can't keep my frustration all bottled up and cannot afford therapy- I sometimes need to talk with SOMEONE! She would be angry if she knew that I posted on this board, for instance. She also hates the fact that I may talk to close friends about our ML issue. Of course, I am my own person and have a right to talk about it (respectfully, of course) with trusted friends. I think that she is a bit ashamed at her behavior towards me and/or wants to 'keep up appearances' that we don't have problems in that area.

My question is to LLs: would you be upset if you knew that your spouse/SO discussed your ML with close friends in a respectful way? If so, why?


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Registered: 09-30-2007
Sat, 10-27-2007 - 5:40am

Dear Dadguy,

The reason she's upset is the fact that she cannot control what you say. She probably controls everything else that pertains to your love life so when you exercise some control over your problem yourself without her OK she's P.O.ed.

Now you will get bunch of the LL's saying that is not the case that it is about something else like how uncomfortable it is for them or how

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Registered: 10-01-2003
Sun, 10-28-2007 - 12:56am
It doesn't bother me at all. I'm not ashamed because I don't want to have sex as much as my dh. I have overheard him talking to friends about our sex life, but I don't feel it was overboard. He just makes comments, and it doesn't make me mad at all. I talk about our sex life to a close friend. It's nice to have someone to relate to.