LL's: Help an HL understand love and ML
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|Thu, 12-06-2007 - 10:03pm|
A question for LL's: I'm an HL and married to an LL. My spouse expresses a strong love for me. Yet sometimes when I request sex with a reasonable frequency my spouse denies me. Sometimes when I request certain types of sex which are not disrespectful and which my spouse has participated in willingly in the past my spouse denies me. The reasons my spouse gives range from, "I'm tired" to "I just don't feel like it" to "I'm not in the mood".
I have a strong love for my spouse. I do things for my spouse I don't feel like doing, both at work and around the house (my spouse came up with the work/sex comparison, revealing something about how my spouse views sex). Sometimes I'm tired and I'm not in the mood to work and I just don't feel like working, yet I do it anyway. Furthermore, we are committed to be exclusive with each other when it comes to sex. So, although someone else could do the work, no one else could provide the sexual satisfaction.
This imbalance hurts my feelings, it makes me