Hmm, ways to initiate?
I often compared my desire from DW to initiate in the bedroom, to her desire for gifts from me. The only way I found to satisfy her with the perfect gift was to sneak the desired gift "idea" out of her without her realizing it. Then I would file it away for later because if I gave it too soon it would jog her memory of the conversation no matter how casual it was. I would never lead these deceptive conversations, just look for opportunities to guide them for the precious gem then go on like nothing ever happened. I don't know if that would work for you in this area but blessing to you for even thinking about it.