Looking to get back my sex drive!
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|Sun, 06-21-2009 - 6:14pm|
I've been in an amazing relationship for about a year and a half. It's been easy going, smooth sailing, and I believe I've found my perfect match. (I'm 29)
Up until last November or so, my sex drive had been normal, healthy (with my partner and in the past, with my ex). I was happy to initiate, to explore different positions, etc. Always eager to have sex.
All of this changed around November- it seems like somebody just switched the power off in my sex drive. I feel absolutely nothing when I have sex, have very low sex drive, even for masturbating (I used to masturbate a few times a week, now maybe once or twice a month). It's driving me crazy because I WANT to enjoy sex, I miss those passionate moments, I used to LOVE having sex with my boyfriend, and now I'm almost making myself do it just to see if I can get my mood back. We used to have sex about 5 or more times a week, now it's gone down to 2 or 3, and I'm basically doing it because I don't want him to feel rejected. He has a very normal, healthy sex drive and obviously misses the old times- he's been very supportive overall.
Nothing really changed last year- no new medications, no new stresses, no new diet, the relationship is just as stable as before. My doctor recently changed my birth control pills to ones with a much lower dose of hormones, and she told me that would make a big difference. It didn't.
What can I do to get my sex drive back? I don't think this is a typical case of mismatched libidos, because I really do want to be able to enjoy sex again, to feel something!!