Male LLs get a reboot! Possible cure?

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Male LLs get a reboot! Possible cure?
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Tue, 07-05-2011 - 2:41pm

So I've breen trying to fix this ML my boyfriend and I have, in an effort to do "everything I can" before I have to resort to dumping him.

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Tue, 07-05-2011 - 3:49pm

The link doesn't work...

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Tue, 07-05-2011 - 5:10pm
Thanks for letting me know! Fixed it :)
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Tue, 07-05-2011 - 7:13pm

ROFL

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Tue, 07-05-2011 - 8:45pm
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Tue, 07-05-2011 - 8:45pm
I do suspect that porn is a factor in many cases of male LL. However, the author makes it seem like his solution is easy for anyone to do. It seems that most of the LLs are perfectly content with their habit and wouldn't want to change especially at such a painful cost.
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Tue, 07-05-2011 - 11:04pm
Actually, the author does not talk at all about how other people would cope with this, the article is merely a diary of his reactions. He also speaks extensively about the downsides of this method, there is no sugarcoating. Finally, what painful cost are you referring to? The pain of not being able to masturbate and look at porn for a while? :) Hardly a substantial sacrifice, if you ask me..
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Wed, 07-06-2011 - 1:42am
magnaniman wrote:
I do suspect that porn is a factor in many cases of male LL.

I wonder if porn

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Wed, 07-06-2011 - 8:08am
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It might not me a substantial sacrifice for you but it would be for a lot of people. I'm far from LL so this article doesn't apply to me but it would be very challenging (and painful) to me to go without any sexual outlet for that long.
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Wed, 07-06-2011 - 11:25am
To me, the porn and masturbation is a big problem if he is turning her down for sex. Possible explanations:

1. He has a decent libido in general, but he is not hot for her. Does not bode well for long term relatonship.

2. He prefers solo sex to partner sex. Question is whether a "holiday" jumps starts his interest in partner sex. Worth trying, but if it takes most of 2 months for him to start sniffing for sex, not a good long term sign. If he isn't crawling the walls within a week or 2, my advice is to move on.

3. In all events, he should be willing to give up porn and masturbation whenever his partner requests, as long as she is willing to be available. Good sign that he agreed to give it up without much of a fight.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Thu, 07-07-2011 - 7:40am

...agree Hold...

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