Male LLs get a reboot! Possible cure?

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Registered: 06-28-2011
Male LLs get a reboot! Possible cure?
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Tue, 07-05-2011 - 2:41pm

So I've breen trying to fix this ML my boyfriend and I have, in an effort to do "everything I can" before I have to resort to dumping him.

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Thu, 08-04-2011 - 5:51pm

<< You never ask or demand to watch porn or to have sex? >>

For her to faciliate my climax silly.

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Registered: 10-31-2009
Thu, 08-04-2011 - 4:37pm

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Wed, 08-03-2011 - 5:12pm

The potential for drawbacks in the bedroom due to excessive porn/masturbation has been known for some time.

http://www.foxnews.com/health/2011/07/28/too-much-good-thing-when-sex-lasts-too-long/

Personally, I only participate in it after my gf has gotten me excited, had the chance to get me off and declined (I never ask or demand btw) or a few days has gone by since my last climax regardless of her actions.

Fortunately, this only happens a couple of times a month... gods be praised LOL

Angry balls are never fun :)

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Mon, 07-11-2011 - 10:58am
Glad to hear it worked for you. As I said, if it was going to work at all, I didn't think it would take anywhere near 2 months for his libido to show up. So happy to hear about a success story.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 06-28-2011
Sun, 07-10-2011 - 9:10pm

Wow.. after a week-long reboot, my LL boyfriend couldn't control himself around me! It was like the first few weeks of dating.. definitely going to do this every few months :) :) :)

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Registered: 06-28-2011
Thu, 07-07-2011 - 10:21pm

I know that LLs are not defective, and do not need to be cured. I know that it is difficult to deal with and I empathize with you, lord knows I have heard enough from my man and read enough online about LL to realize that it is extremely hard to live with and I sincerely did not mean to imply, in any way, that this is something that needs to be cured. I myself have an incurable condition (autoimmune) and spend a lot of time trying to find ways to make it more bearable.

I only know that in my relationship, my boyfriend and I have been looking for ways to meet eachother halfway. We do that in a conscious effort to see if we can spend our lives together happily, despite this difference. That is why I shared the info; I think, if we are doing this, someone else might be too.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Thu, 07-07-2011 - 1:29pm
Hunter,

I don't think any of us have "gone off in a huff" nor do I think that anyone is attempting to "oversimplify." Fact is the only things we have to go on are what other posters put here, and our own personal experiences. I for one, as a LL who has struggled mightily with feeling defective and broken and needing to be "fixed" chafe at posts like this..."whoo hoo..cure for LL" etc. It is NOT a disease. We aren't ill, or broken. You posted this in LL support, and honestly, I don't think it's very supportive at all. Plus all of what Z said.

Trading tips about how to "fix" your LL partner isn't going to bring you hapiness, trust me about this.
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Registered: 06-28-2011
Thu, 07-07-2011 - 12:54pm

Aww, sorry guys.. I seem to have hit a nerve!

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Thu, 07-07-2011 - 9:11am
>>I know your boyfriend tells you that he's always been this way...so, just believe him (unless you find evidence that he is engaging with sex with other people or looking at porn on a regular basis...which might suggest a few things...he just isn't into you but considers you a good relationship partner in spite of the lack of his attraction for you...he is gay...he has a kink tha he doesn't want to tell you about)...he is telling you who he is...work toward a compromise but stop trying to fix him...you are the only one that you can change, so if you want to stay in this relationship, stop trying to fix him or find ways for him to want more sex...work toward a comproimse and redefine what you consider sexually fulfilling (he brings you to a loving orgasm without intercourse every time)....or, fix you and seek a way to lower your libido...a more realistic solution would be to stop working on this relationship and go back out "there" in the dating pool...the initial period of relationship is meant as a bonding time where things are easy...<<

Well, said. I was trying to come up with all the things that bothered me about this thread, but there you've put them together in a nice neat package, Z/

BRAVA!
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Registered: 02-03-2009
Thu, 07-07-2011 - 7:47am

..YOU posted this as a solution for Male LLs...that's your title, that's why MM responded as he did...the male that published his diary may have just meant it as his "solution" but you put it forth as a possible solution for Male LLs...now, let's use common sense...if abstaining and looking at porn is all that it took to cure Male LL, there would be no male LLs (except for those that are just not that into sex and don't care to be "fixed" or sexed up...which probably accounts for a lot of the Male (and female) LLs...by the way...I know your boyfriend tells you that he's always been this way...so, just believe him (unless you find evidence that he is engaging with sex with other people or looking at porn on a regular basis...which might suggest a few things...he just isn't into you but considers you a good relationship partner in spite of the lack of his attraction for you...he is gay...he has a kink tha he doesn't want to tell you about)...he is telling you who he is...work toward a compromise but stop trying to fix him...you are the only one that you can change, so if you want to stay in this relationship, stop trying to fix him or find ways for him to want more sex...work toward a comproimse and redefine what you consider sexually fulfilling (he brings you to a loving orgasm without intercourse every time)....or, fix you and seek a way to lower your libido...a more realistic solution would be to stop working on this relationship and go back out "there" in the dating pool...the initial period of relationship is meant as a bonding time where things are easy...

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