May-December, mis-matched libidos, depression and medication.

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Registered: 09-30-2011
May-December, mis-matched libidos, depression and medication.
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Fri, 09-30-2011 - 5:17pm

It has been awhile since I've frequented iVillage.

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Thanks, deedle. Once my heart reconciles with my logic, all will be well. I'll get there.
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Registered: 09-30-2011
Hey tryinghard, I'd thank you for your response, but you're about three months behind. If you'd ready any of the thread above, you would know that I am not in that relationship, and haven't been for a little while now.
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Registered: 09-21-2011
Hope, thanks for the update. Sorry to hear that it didn't work out, but I do hope the friendship remains string.

Wishing the best for you
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HopeAndPrayForPeace wrote:

It has been awhile since I've frequented iVillage.

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Registered: 09-30-2011

Hi there.

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Registered: 09-21-2011

I'm entertaining myself at work and reading old posts, if you are still around I would love an update, hopefully you moved home and 2012 is going much better for you.

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Registered: 12-10-2009

I guess you're observing the "rubber band" effect that FLM eloquently describes.

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Registered: 09-30-2011

I'm not sure why I'm back with an update.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Hopefully you are more precise in asking for what you want than you were in posting here. If not, it may behoove you to make clear to your partner and your therapist that sex is not what you require at all, and that affection and physical gestures there of, that do not lead to sex, would be sufficient for you. In actuality you cannot be too precise about these things. And you must make the partner aware that these things do NOT lead you to wanting/expecting sex (if indeed they do not.)

It is very common for LL individuals to shy away from these kinds of gestures, because they believe the gesture will be misread as a desire for sex, or that the partner will try to use the gesture to lead to sex. If you make it clear that this is not the case, most LLs can be encouraged to become affectionate once more, provided that the love has not been destroyed in the conflict.

Best of luck to you, and let us know how things turn out.
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Thanks for that.

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