meds and sex drive

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Registered: 12-09-2005
meds and sex drive
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Fri, 10-12-2007 - 1:19pm

I am 52 yrs. old, wife is 51, I started taking Zoloft six months ago for anxiety ect., it has been a real miracle drug for me, however it

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 1:51pm

First welcome and good for you looking for ways to keep your sex life going.

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 7:21pm

From my understanding and experience, most antidepressants affect libido, arousal and response -- the whole kit and caboodle. The best suggestion I can offer is to take periodic "drug holidays" of a few days to a couple of weeks (with your doctor's supervision) -- not long enough to bring back your anxiety or depression symptoms, but long enough to clear the drug from your system so you can experience sexual interest and response. This strategy has worked pretty well for me over the years. After I'm off my drug for a couple of weeks, my body just screams for orgasm -- a kind of rebound effect, I think.

Freelance

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Registered: 12-03-2002
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 8:35pm

A couple of years ago I ended up taking ADs in order to deal with my ML.
I found that although it did not lessen my mental libido only my physical.
In other words I still though about sex all the time but was haveing trouble with
orgasms and spontaneous erections (or lack there of). The only thing I can suggest though
is to allow ample time for sex, have lots of foreplay. And maybe your DW won't mine the
delay in orgasm like mine did.

Dirty

Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin
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Registered: 01-04-2006
Sat, 10-13-2007 - 10:41am

"In other words I still though about sex all the time but was haveing trouble with
orgasms and spontaneous erections (or lack there of)."


One thing that I have read as we age it that we need more manual stimulation to help achieve erections.

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Registered: 12-03-2002
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 8:52pm

Trying,
My situation was a bad catch 22. I took ADs to deal with my ML. It created a situation where
physical arousal and orgasm became difficult without the help of DW. But mentally I still needed relief so it created a difficult situation when I took matters into my own hands.
This in turn made me very resentful of DW. If she'd been willing to help out it would have been different. But then again if she'd be willing to help out I wouldn't have been depressed and wouldn't have needed the meds.

Dirty

Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin