More frustrated than ever

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Registered: 10-03-2003
More frustrated than ever
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Sun, 02-03-2008 - 1:57pm

Last night was another downhill event for us.

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Sun, 02-03-2008 - 2:12pm

Hi bjuana,

I'm wondering if it might be more productive to talk about "finding common ground" than about your needs and his needs. As Vixen has pointed out elsewhere, the "tit for tat" approach is a rather utilitarian and mercenary approach to dealing with marital discord. If you framed the discussion as trying to find common ground in sexual expression and other areas of disharmony, might this help you view each other as allies rather than adversaries? Just musing here.

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Sun, 02-03-2008 - 3:14pm
Practically speaking, a lot of insurance plans will cover some counseling and some employers have Employee Assistance Plans that will cover the costs of the initial assessment and recommendations.
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Registered: 10-03-2003
Sun, 02-03-2008 - 5:25pm
I think I get what you are asking.
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Registered: 10-03-2003
Sun, 02-03-2008 - 5:29pm
I really need to look into the employment thing eventhough I don't know if I will be there for more than 2 more months.
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Registered: 11-07-2007
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 8:42am

bjuana:


I really get the feeling that your husband is not sensitive to your needs sexually and emotionally.

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Registered: 10-03-2003
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 7:45pm
Yeah he just doesn't get it.
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