New to the board...

I just wanted to say that everyone here seems very nice and willing to listen and help if they can.

I am 25 and in a longterm relationship with another 25 year old. We used to have a great sex life, he actually wanted it more than me. Then, a little over a year ago we moved in together and downhill went sex. He says he is just tired with his new job and still wants me as much as he used to. But I don't feel it...it's been over a year!!! Seriously, like once a week on Saturdays or Sundays, but not both. I feel ugly and unwanted and unsexy and all those bad emotions that go along with his change. I know I am a pretty girl, I get hit on all the time, but I can't help feeling bad about myself when my own boyfriend won't touch me. I try to get him in the mood in subtle ways and that NEVER works. I try to flat out tell him and that leads to a fight. What hurts the most is I have discovered him looking up porn on his computer (yes, I am a horrible snoop, but I was looking for signs of an affair). So I know he is interested in being sexual and getting off, just not with me that often.......I feel like there is no point in saying anything on here, because I don't think anyone can really help me. I have done everything Cosmo would say to do to get him interested and I have talked to him and I'm just sad.