DH and I have gone in circles with this ML subject.
Help me understand what it feels like to love sex, think about it all the time, have fantasies... but not want it. Or is it just with your DH that you don't want it?
With fantasies I can imagine any scenario
Hi again bjuana,
Can you help me understand this concept, too? See, my secret theory is that people who make this statement actually find that sex has both both good parts and not-so-good parts (rather than being all great) so on balance isn't always worthwhile.
But let's assume I'm wrong. If you need a push to get started but know from experience that pleasure and fulfilment will automatically ensue (without any negative elements), why would it be so hard to give yourself that push? Wouldn't the knowledge of the guaranteed pleasure around the corner make it easy to get over the hump?
Ok Freelance I hope this makes since but this is the best way I can think to explain this.
This analogy was GREAT! I completely got what you were trying to say! :)
BTW, I really enjoy and learn alot from your posts. You seem so nice and so genuine. I hope you keep posting.
Thanks, bjuana, that helps. I guess your big battle is between sleep and sex, and sleep doesn't require any "activating energy" at all.