no sex drive?

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Registered: 10-27-2009
no sex drive?
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Fri, 01-15-2010 - 2:21pm

I am not sure if I am putting this message in the right place but I hope someone has some good advice.


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Registered: 12-06-2007
In reply to: justme1976
Fri, 01-15-2010 - 2:42pm
What's keeping you from leaving?
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Registered: 10-27-2009
In reply to: justme1976
Sat, 01-16-2010 - 9:20am

I stay because he is a good man, he treats me very well. I don’t want to be alone. How many men out there would want to put up with a bi-polar woman who doesn’t have meds and attitude under control. I stay because I can’t imagine my life without him.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: justme1976
Sat, 01-16-2010 - 9:20am

If you don't want to live like roommates, then you have a decision to make.

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Registered: 08-26-2008
In reply to: justme1976
Sat, 01-16-2010 - 9:56am
If you are bi-polar and don't have your meds or attitude under control you may not be seeing things clearly. You should get that straight first and then reassess your relationship. Things may look different or the same, but you owe it to both of you to address these problems first.
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Registered: 12-18-2009
In reply to: justme1976
Sat, 01-16-2010 - 9:58am

"stay because he is a good man, he treats me very well. I don’t want to be alone. How many men out there would want to put up with a bi-polar woman who doesn’t have meds and attitude under control."

OMG! you are completely messsed up ,dear.You are staying for all the wrong reasons and believe me,he will see through this soon than later and you will be in more trouble.You are using him,IMO.I am sorry for the guy.

I am sorry if it sounds blunt but gosh,you cant use him like this!

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Registered: 10-27-2009
In reply to: justme1976
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 1:45pm

I have often thought that possibly it was time to make a stay or go decision. I have also thought about needing to get my meds under control before making any rushed decisions. I feel very conflicted and confused. Sometimes I also fear that there is nothing really wrong with our relationship and that I possibly seek drama in my life...if the latter is the case then I know I need more help. Except for the sex things are good with us so maybe I am just looking for something to go wrong??


As for using him....I suppose its possible. I have never looked at it that way before.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
In reply to: justme1976
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 10:26am

There are plenty of men who would be happy to be "used" if it meant they could share sex daily with their romantic partner.


I agree you should get your meds straight before breaking up with him, so you can make that decision with a clear head and a clear conscience.

When you see it coming, duck!