No sex life after his injury
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|Fri, 07-20-2007 - 8:46pm|
My boyfriend and I have been dating 6 months and already we both know we want to be together forever. He's an amazing guy and is wonderful to me. We've been together just a short time so our sex life shoudl still be pretty active, right?
We started out that way, but in the 2nd month of our relationship, my boyfriend tore his frenulum during sex (he's uncircumcized), which caused us not to be able to have sex for at least a month while he healed. It was tough, but he made sure I was always satisfied, and I did everything I could to make sure he was taken care of, working around his injury.
After he was healed and we were able to have sex again, we of course wanted it often. The problem now is that he doesn't last long at all, even now that it's 4 months after this injury happened. He feels terrible, and sure, it bothers me, but I'm not going to make him feel worse for it. He used to be able to last for quite a while, so it was amazing for both of us. Now though, we're lucky if it's 2 minutes.
It's to the point where he doesn't even approach me for sex anymore. When I approach him and try to initiate, he usually rejects me somehow (as nicely as he can). He asked me the other night if I think he's not attracted to me sexually anymore, and I told him sometimes I feel that way. He told me he loves me and loves sex with me, but he is disappointed in sex because of the short length of time it is now. He says he has lost all confidence in himself in that aspect, and he therefore doesn't approach me anymore.
I am to the point where I don't care how long it lasts. I feel like I need this emotionally as much as I do physically. It's to the point where I don't even feel horny anymore--I just want to be with him that way. I've told him that and he feels terrible, though I was not trying to make him feel bad.
We are now having sex maybe once a week (if that) and it's really starting to upset me. I know he feels terrible but I know he also enjoys sex with me.
Can anyone offer advice? We have talked about it, but I don't think we're getting anywhere.