not in the mood!

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Registered: 07-08-2007
not in the mood!
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 7:11pm

Someone made a good point on this board that if you're not happy in your marriage and having problems that it can affect your sex life...and thats exactly what we're going through. To make a long story short we're having financial problems right now and down to one car cuz his car needs work done and mine is in the shop.......so we're driving a rental. besides we got a good refund back so its not like we dont have the money to fix it.....tell him that....he goes off on me on V-day....saying ever since we got married things are going bad, he could of had this and that if he didn't meet me, i never have any money to fix the cars....he even went as far as talking about my parents, i brought him some candy and a card for V-day and he threw it at me and told me to stick it up my ass w/my stinking p*$$8. I couldn't believe it!

I feel like he wants to sleep with someone and trying to find things wrong with me or getting tired of me. we NEVER spend anytime together.......i work 2 jobs 7 days a week so i have a right to be tired......while he spends his weekends going out to the club. He doesn't kiss me, hug me, before or during sex. its like he's a robot with no senses. He doesn't like to show affection out in public which i don't have a problem with but he doesn't show it behind closed doors. He's always on the phone and he doesn't give me any attention until its time to have sex and thats the only time he talks to me. I just don't see how him lying beside me in bed not doing any type of 4-play or touching suppose to get me in the mood. Aint nothing wrong with a quickie every now and then.....but sometimes i want more....To me sex is about being intimate and close to your partner. He's just not turning me on and i tell him over and over why and he says you're the one with the problem. I never had a problem with my ex and they did all of the things that he doesn't do. With the way he treats me i could care less about having sex or pleasing him. And after the fight we had V-day i'm thinking about a separation because all we do is argue over money and i feel like i'll never be able to please him in bed and he's waiting for an reason to cheat.

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 10:10pm
Sorry to hear about your situation.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-08-2007
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 6:30pm
Around May of last year....when he started calling me out of my name, didn't spend time with me, or get me anything for my birthday, and expects me to work 2 jobs while he goes clubbing on the weekends.
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Registered: 09-20-2007
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 11:48pm
So why do you stay?