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|Sun, 08-12-2007 - 12:50pm|
I dont know if I am LL or what the guidelines are for that, but I am fustrated in my relationship with a definite HL.
We have been together 3 years next month. The first year we had sex every day, since then at least 5 times a week. We are both 34, I have a 10 yr old and demandingly active 3 yr old, (not his kids), and he works nights 5 nights a week leaving at 9:30, I work days, and I have been seriously sleep deprived alot.
If I followed my natural desires, I would never go 3 days without sex in a relationship, and sometimes want it twice in one day. But for him, it has to be every day and he has to know its going to be every day, and he bugs me about it ALL day. I dont see what he has to worry about because my first marriage was with a LL (sex was 3 times a month), and I think 5 times a week is pretty good. Am I wrong? Is there something I dont understand about HL? We have had so many major fights about this, and I am getting tired of feeling the pressure every day. I have a ob/gyn appt monday and refrained from sex for two days before so I dont mess up the pap smear, because I ended up having a biopsy once, and I dont want to do that again. Well, he knew this in advance, still treated me like a peice of meat all day, even trying to get me drunk so I would give in and then got mad at me at the end of the night when he had to masturbate. (He cant have an orgasm through anything I do to him except intercourse) So I left the room and let him do his thing, cause he cant do it with me there, and then he treats me like crap. I am tired of feeling like the bad guy who doesnt please, when I have bent over backwards to please him many a time. I just really dont know how to deal with it anymore, and sometimes I think he needs someone who can make him happier, but he says I make him very happy. I dont get it. HELP!