Repost: GOD they are frustrating at time
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|Mon, 01-15-2007 - 6:45am|
My whole weekend was awful...we were just so busy. running all over the place never really having a moment to ourselves. I thought he would want some quality time with me at one point too..after last night when i suggested sex he was too tired so he actually said how bout tonight when the kids are gone between 5-8. Well of course today he complained that he wanted to watch a football game this afternoon. He never does watch them so i was ok with that. I went and did my own thing. then when the kids got dropped off at their thing i expected that we were going to watch our movie from last night, maybe get a little action on but he announced to me that he planned once again to watch ANOTHER football game, leaving me to watch the movie WE were going to watch, alone. So he quietly suggests before he heads out the door with the kids, hey got an idea. why don't you be naked when i get home and we can have sex, THEN i can still watch my game and you can watch your movie!! I was so freakin furious. I just said, no...that's not EXACTLY the romance i'm looking for, but thanks you f**$(*^*!!! (i thought that, but didn't say it out loud). So his game went WAY longer than he thought, i think. He's come in periodically being all sweet...made dinner. but still no attempts at interupting his game for some sex. OH NO! Anyways, i'm freakin furious. I realise that alot of women deal with this on a weekly basis with the whole 'FOOTBALL' thing but i'm not about to be tossed aside for that. We haven't had sex in over 2 weeks, and when we did last it's because I asked for it. So now i'm mad. BUT of course if i tell him i'm mad, he'll say how it's not fair because i don't even give him a few hours to watch a couple of games. It's almost over blahblah...he hasn't watched ANY games all year and it's the least he should be able to do considering everything he does around here. WEll i can tell you one thing for sure that he does not do - and maybe if he did more often it wouldn't be so bad, and that thing he doesn't do is ME!!
(sorry about the rant - i just need to get it off my chest before he gets home with the kids)
i'm just so tired of 'never' having sex. I'm pissed off. i'm planning this wedding, and i'm starting to see how little effort he puts into our relationship. it's wrong. sure he does other things...he's very efficient around the house, fixing things, cleaning up etc but in the bedroom he sucks!
how am i supposed to live like this? we are going to see a couples therapist to try and do away with the 'stressors' that are supposedly causing him this problem but so far i don't see it working. And yesterday he had EVERY opportunity but once again decided against it. And from the minute his football game was done he was trying to be so sweet with me, all lovey dovey (not sexually but like making up) anyways until i actually hear a 'i'm sorry' out of his mouth, i don't even want to speak to him. And now this morning (the next morning) he's all surprised that i'm upset with him. AARRRRGGHH!!!
what would you do?