Sex all the time
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|Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:21am|
I am 21 years old and live with my boyfriend. Usually, we have sex everyday unless I am on my period. I get annoyed with all the sex he wants to have, and usually I give in, and just have sex whenever he wants. There has been too many times after we don't have sex that he gets upset. Sometimes, I'd rather have sex with him than have him complain.
It's not that I am not attracted to him. I find him extremely sexy, its just that his high libido gets on my nerves. I feel suffocated because he wants it all the time. I get tired of him talking about sex, and whenever we don't have sex, he makes comments about how he watched pornography or masturbated in order to get over it.
Is this normal?! Do most men find it necessary to have sex everyday? I mean, we haven't had sex for like THREE DAYS and he made this comment like, "It really scares me when you don't want to have sex." And he went on to overexaggerate: "We haven't had sex for like a week and a half." The thing was I was eating, and he was about to go to work (he works night shift). Earlier in the day, I wanted to get ready for work myself. He takes it personally when I don't want to have sex. It's not that I don't, it is just that it is usually a 45-50 minute process that I just sometimes don't have the god damn time for!
It really hit me this morning. We were in bed, and he usually goes to sleep around 10am 11am in order to sleep for the night shift. He was being very cuddly, kissy, lovey. I liked it a lot. Then he started to push my panties to the side, and I said, "I want to get ready for work. I don't want to be all gross when I go to work." I didn't say it mean or anything, I was really nice.
"I'm going to go to sleep then." Then he stopped being cuddly.
"What was that?!" I said, "It's not like I am not someone with a good personality who you can have a good conversation with. You're only staying awake to have sex?!"
"Well, yeah." he said.
Then I gave him a little yell.
It upsets me that he can stay up to have sex with me, but anything else outside of the confines of sex is useless. I understand that he wants to sleep. Then he started to be very nice, massassing my feet, kissing me, and he went to sleep.
Then he happened again tonight when he wanted to have sex30-40 minutes before he had to go. I had just cooked food, wanted to eat it, and wasn't up for it.
Then all of a sudden he said, "We haven't had sex in like a week and a half!" (which like I explained earlier, was actually only three days.)
I don't want him to feel like he is being neglected, but at the same time I don't want to feel like some chick who just "puts out" all the time.
What should I do?