Sex drive just gone!! Im only 31!

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Registered: 09-30-2009
Sex drive just gone!! Im only 31!
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Mon, 06-14-2010 - 2:00pm

I am recently married and just found out I am pregnant! We have a TON of stress in our lives, I am in outside sales and he owns a business. I am 31 and he is 35. We each have a child from our previous marriages and I find myself so distracted and exhausted from working 10-12 hours days that sex is the LAST thing on my mind when we finally get to the bed!


We have only been married 2 months and it shouldnt be like this! He is frustrated with me and I cannot get in the mood, now that I am pregnant I feel like I could just fall asleep during the day then when his daughter comes the stress levels go through the roof!!!


Any words of advice for me??

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 06-17-2010 - 3:44pm
To me is is an option that is available. I do not understand the "harsh". To me it would be a logical method of getting what I want.
I think in that manner.
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Registered: 05-04-2006
Thu, 06-17-2010 - 1:37pm

Well, to be honest, I was none too impressed by your suggestion to this poster. It seemed off the mark, and overly harsh. I just couldn't come up with a snappy retort or witty way to defuse things....hence my ridiculous "wow" post.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 06-17-2010 - 1:23pm
Notice our "bully" is at it again. I guess only "in the box" thinking is allowed. No wonder some do not progress if new thought are not brought forth!
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Registered: 05-04-2006
Thu, 06-17-2010 - 8:51am

>> does he just get mad when you don't put out? If he's trying to argue you to death so you have sex with him that will just make the problem worse so that you're sex drive for him will possibly never return<<

Very very true. As a LL once your efforts to extend a loving gesture have been ridiculed and attacked as being insufficient, it becomes almost impossible to continue to offer yourself up on the alter of the HLs sexual needs.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Thu, 06-17-2010 - 6:21am

Does he actually try to seduce you and help you WANT sex, such as lighting candles, talking romantically etc. or does he just get mad when you don't put out? If he's trying to argue you to death so you have sex with him that

 


 

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 11:08am

Jamie:


There is no mystery why

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 10:53am
...dripping with sarcasm???...

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 9:32am

>>>>> Am I crazy in thinking that we should take our partner's needs more seriously than life's distractions? <<<<<


Yes, you are.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 06-15-2010
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 3:08am

Sometimes, when I've just worked for 15 hours, and come home and do the laundry, clean the catbox, and put the dishes away, I don't really want to go to work the next morning.

But do I call my co-workers, or my boss, and say "I'm not coming in because I'm not in the mood?"

So, how ridiculous does it sound that you are completely dismissive with your life-partner?

Am I crazy in thinking that we should take our partner's needs more seriously than life's distractions?

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Registered: 03-27-2009
Mon, 06-14-2010 - 2:48pm
If your just caught...it might be a little while till your newly hijacked hormonal system stabilizes a bit....that's normal. After that it's prioritizing adult time...some stuff is going to slip....avoid it always being sex as the first thing to slide.