"Signals" to initiate?

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Registered: 10-07-2007
"Signals" to initiate?
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 11:42pm
For couples, do you use signals to clue in your partner that you're in the mood? I'm shy about initiating, so I need a signal we could use that won't make me feel silly or embarrassed. We had a code word/phrase before but I didn't want to use it right after we talked about it (because I felt like it would be way too obvious then I would be embarrassed and not in the mood anymore) so I waited like a week and by then he had totally forgotten! I was heartbroken. Would like to suggest something different this time to my partner, need ideas of signals that are clear enough to him but not too obvious so I feel silly - thanks!
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Registered: 12-03-2002
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 2:08pm

DW keeps a can of Mace on her night table. If I see that its not there
then I can approach her.

Sorry couldn't resist.


Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin
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Registered: 02-21-2003
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 3:05pm

Ha ha, good one!