Tired of compromises!

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Registered: 10-03-2003
Tired of compromises!
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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 11:43pm

DH and I go through periods when our libidos really clash. For the most part we find a middle ground, but lately it's been tough. We have made so many deals/plans for sex, and they never work. Our most recent one was we would have sex every other night. That way I would get one night to veg out and just go to bed, and I knew the next night it would be a great possibility he would initate sex, so I didn't have to worry about if he was going to do it or not. But that didn't work. He never agreed to it, so I thought we weren't doing it, but then after a few days of no sex he says that I wasn't doing anything. So we hit another rough patch. He got real resentful, and the more resentful he was, the less I wanted it.

We were doing really good spending time together at night watching tv and chatting. That has stopped. His sleep schedule has changed because of his job and he is on call sometimes. So, sometimes we don't go to bed together. I understand that but I don't want to be woken up in the middle of the night for sex. We talked today and I told him Saturday night was a great lovemaking night for me. I don't work on Saturdays so I have a day to relax a bit, plus I don't have to get up early the next morning, well not too early anyway. Cause another issue I have about sex is how late it gets sometimes. So now we are guaranteed one night of sex on Saturday. I figure I can deal with one night during the week too. But I'm not going to make any plans out loud with him because it just puts too much pressure on me. For now Saturday nights are set and I'm excited about that!

I will aim for lovemaking on Sat, quickie sex one day of the week, and bj for him another day. I think I can handle that. I hope! :p



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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 5:52pm

Hi bjuana,


I just wanted to offer you some positive thoughts and support. Compromise can truly be taxing on a person, especially if it's so difficult or you feel as though it is not appreciated by the other party.


I was just wondering, you mention a lot about

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Registered: 10-03-2003
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:40pm
Hi Elyse, as far as dh compromising, I don't know.
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