When is it okay to gently say no?

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Registered: 05-31-2010
When is it okay to gently say no?
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Fri, 09-17-2010 - 1:00pm

As many of you may know, DH and I have a "sex on demand" policy running for the past several months. And until now, this really hasn't been an issue, but here in the past week or so, DH has tried initiating when I'm very intensely absorbed in studying. I'm a university student, and I am at the point where I'm deeply into my major courses. It's tough, and I need to be able to focus on studying.

Is it okay to suggest a "rain-check" until the next morning? Or should I just drop the studying and oblige right then? I asked for a rain check the other day, and though he said he was okay with it, he seemed a bit frustrated. Is there a better way to do this, because I have to make decent grades. He knows how committed I am to getting my degree, and the decision for me to go back was a joint decision.

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Registered: 03-19-2006
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 7:49pm

Miranda,



My exwife of 27 years ago was a sophomore in college and I changed teaching jobs so that we could get married and go to the school that she wanted to go to.

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