Will I ever get my libido back?

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Registered: 07-03-2009
Will I ever get my libido back?
Mon, 07-06-2009 - 11:01pm

I am sorry if this is going to be long.

I am about to turn 30. First time I was sexually active was at 25 then not until last year again with my current bf. I started taking birth control pills with totally killed my libido. It made my bf think it was him. I have been off the pill for a month and I still feel the same. Even during sex I don't seem to be much into it (never was while on the pill). Can't seem to orgasm only orally and that was pretty hard too. Before started being sexually active with him I seemed to be "horny" all the time. Now it rarely happens. Could we just not "click" in that way? Or am I just somebody with perhaps low or no libido? Will I ever enjoy the act of sex ever, or am I just not meant to have it. Ugh I am so frustrated by this, that there is something wrong with me.

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Registered: 12-13-2007
Tue, 07-07-2009 - 12:36am


I don't think there's anything wrong with you.



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Registered: 03-08-2004
Tue, 07-07-2009 - 6:13am
It could take months for your
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Registered: 12-03-2002
Tue, 07-07-2009 - 8:29am

The good news is that you want it back. You have won half the battle. Now you need to figure out how. While a great portion of libido is hormone related much of it is in your mind. You may need some time to re-engage yourself and learn to focus on what you enjoy and what you like. You can do this alone or with the help of your SO. If you want t include your SO google sensate therapy and you will probably find step by step instructions that may be of help.


Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin