3 weeks=3 months!?!?

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Registered: 05-04-2006
3 weeks=3 months!?!?
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Sun, 09-26-2010 - 10:09am

Well, yesterday while I was helping DH rip out a deck he commented snidely "boy it sure is great to go 3 months without sex, isn't it?"

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Registered: 05-31-2010
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 11:01am

I just don't know what to say about this. And I'm trying very hard to understand where he is coming from, and I just can't. I don't understand what he hopes to gain by attempting to pick fights with you, unless he really is just trying to push you so far that you leave.

It pains me that you give him so much and he shows so little regard for all of the things you do for him, not just the sex.

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Registered: 09-06-2010
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 12:07pm
I agree. I think this is a destructive pattern of interacting. But, in all honesty, does it not take two to play?
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Registered: 04-06-2006
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 12:41pm

I don't understand why you just don't get it! It's pretty obvious that he expects his childish anger and self centered outbursts to motivate you to totally immerse yourself in whatever level of sexual interaction he is expecting at any given moment. Don't the alienating diatribes make any impression on you? What's so hard to understand, he wants what he wants, when and how he wants it and is angry about it! You're supposed to be saying to yourself, "oh, the poor man, I am making him angry and upset by not totally anticipating is every whim and desire and immediately responding to it in the manner he sees fit, what on earth is wrong with me?" It looks pretty simple to me, you're making the both of you miserable!

I hope you get the sarcasm. I still think he needs to be picked up by your cousins Jethro and Billy Bob and taken for a ride in the country for a little talk.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 12:50pm
My cousins are actually Guido, Vinnie, and Mario.
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Sun, 09-26-2010 - 8:06pm
...being from Kentucky, I have a few Jethros, Darryls, and Billy Bobs you can borrow...
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Registered: 06-01-2008
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 4:33am

I understand your need to come here and vent. I realise that you are doing the best you can with a bad situation. I sympathize.

However, how you can follow that kind of behaviour with having sex with him is beyond me. I'd throw up.

Sorry.

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 8:47am
...surely you understand the concept of compromising...right?...
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Registered: 06-01-2008
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 8:55am
Even compromise has it's limitations ;)
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Registered: 05-04-2006
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 9:09am

>>However, how you can follow that kind of behaviour with having sex with him is beyond me. I'd throw up.<<

It's not easy, but then, my life never has been easy. Lately I find myself wondering what might have been, if I had made some different choices. That's not really healthy, I need to "snap out of it."

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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 9:14am

>>It's not easy, but then, my life never has been easy. Lately I find myself wondering what might have been, if I had made some different choices. That's not really healthy, I need to "snap out of it."<<

I know you don't want to hear this, but you can still make different choices. You don't have to snap out of it.

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