65% of women not satisfied?

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65% of women not satisfied?
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Thu, 05-06-2010 - 9:28am
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Thu, 05-06-2010 - 10:35am

Not sure how you conclude that all these women are HL. My conclusion would be the opposite: that if they LET fatigue, busyness, etc., derail their sex lives, they can't be all that HL in the first place.

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Thu, 05-06-2010 - 10:45am

I think if they find it bothersome that fatigue, busyness, and long work hours interfere with their sex lives they are average libido at the least. I do wish I wasn't too tired, busy, etc to have more sex. But a lot of times I am.

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Thu, 05-06-2010 - 11:56am

It's the headline and subtitle of the article that give it the spin that the women surveyed are blaming their partners for the lack of sexual satisfaction...which is what leads me to believe that they're being portrayed as HL. The text itself can be taken either way.

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Thu, 05-06-2010 - 12:01pm
I think you struck the same thought I did initially: that if you're not satisfied with your sex life I assume you're HL in an ML relationship.
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Thu, 05-06-2010 - 12:07pm

I think there are plenty of LL and average libido people who are in ML who aren't satisfied with their sex lives too (I'm not particularly satisfied with mine that's for sure.) Also, I think there are probably women who are in matched libido situations that aren't actually all that satisfied with their sex lives too, for the exact reasons in that article. They'd love to have more sex, but either they or their partners are too tired/busy/overworked to partake.

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Thu, 05-06-2010 - 12:19pm

I think there are plenty of LL and average libido people who are in ML who aren't satisfied with their sex lives too (I'm not particularly satisfied with mine that's for sure.)


I just didn't see anything in the (really bad) article that mentioned women blaming their own sexual nature for the unsatisfying sex life, which I think is the case with a few LL women on this board but probably insignificant in the kind of junk science study mentioned in this article. I also have trouble with the term "average libido" in the context of ML because it sounds so much like

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Sat, 05-08-2010 - 1:55pm
I agree. It is the attitude of the participants. I have found it is the attitude that plays a large part. Many think that it is just a case of libido. However as I read thru the missives and other journal I am coming to the conclusion that it is the lack of will that is the main culprit. Rather than break out of self imposed barriers to having a great sex life many use laziness and the "suppose to be's" that they learned as children.
I was reading bloggers who having had children mention the was that they sexually connected. Much was mental strength.

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Mon, 05-10-2010 - 9:40pm

Well, there is also the fact that it is a relatively recent idea for women to even consider what they want sexually. Just a few decades ago, sex was deemed by most to be something that a woman did, not something she wanted. And even today, when a 20 yr old girl is being sexually active, it is rarely with the knowledge of herself and what pleases her. It is just with the intent, at best, to have a good time, or at worst, enjoy the power that sex gives her. It is as if, as a society, we have completely skipped over ideas like sensuality, and gone straight to scripted sex peppered with variations from porn, or even main stream media. So when presented with a willing lover, we don't even know what to ask for.


I found it most interesting that, even though these women complained of dissatisfaction, they rarely initiated.

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Tue, 05-11-2010 - 5:38am

"So when presented with a willing lover, we don't even know what to ask for"


Great thought - it's almost like we've been hijacked by the media and other influences.