Affairs: why women have one

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Affairs: why women have one
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Tue, 07-12-2011 - 6:16pm

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Tue, 07-12-2011 - 7:37pm
I can't get past how poorly written it is. The theories presented are anecdotal and hardly statistically relevant.
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 07-13-2011 - 2:21am
Mostly true, except women are better at covering things up and use more common sense not to get caught. So I don't agree with the part about not deleting texts, e mails and such. Women think more about their kids and what they have to lose if they get caught, so they tend to be even more cautious with covering their tracks.
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Registered: 03-24-2011
Wed, 07-13-2011 - 7:47am

How could you rely on stats in affairs? Who would openly admit to straying? And for those that do partake in research, how honest are their answers? There are many reasons why women have affairs, some do it for sex, some for validation, some for the thrill of it, and some for love. Women have affairs the same reasons men do, and yes women in affairs are not as easily discovered, because most women are so selfless in all other aspects of their lives, that unusual behavior goes under the radar.

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Wed, 07-13-2011 - 8:36am

....yes, yes, yes...polls and research about sex/infidelity/theft/breaking the law in general are hard to (for me) "take"...people respond in different ways...some that respond are inclined to skew their answers (most, I think)...they want to answer in the "right" way...others might want to answer in the wrong way, just to make it interesting...others are looking to explain their behavior (even in an anonymous way)...I think that people cheat because at that moment they want to have sex with that person more than anything else...they also cheat because they are caught up in the 'I'm young, flirty, and sexy again"...they also like the elicit aspect of it...plain and simple, people cheat (having sex, spending money secretly, engaging in emotional attachments) because they want to and they try to hide it because they don't want to be caught...

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Registered: 03-27-2009
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 2:13pm
Always wondered...when the stats say 50% of men and 25% of women cheat......Who are all the guys cheating with? Are that many married guys Gay?
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Registered: 05-04-2006
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 2:18pm
Trey,

There are more women on the planet than men.
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Registered: 12-06-2007
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 9:41pm
mirandarr8 wrote:
There are more women on the planet than men.

Is that intended to be a serious explanation? If you had 1000 adults in a town and 50% of the men were

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 8:53am
>>Is that intended to be a serious explanation?<<

Yes, Mr. smarty pants I was serious. Look, there are more women than men to start with, then there's the fact that this leads to more single women than men. Single women sleeping with married men aren't having an affair, they are having sex, as you point out. Roll it all up together and it points to a pretty large number disparity.

Also, if I remember my statistics correctly (and I know I do) a smaller number in your sample size means that it takes less in actual numbers to reach a percentage. ie, if you have 100 men and 50% cheat, then 50 are cheating...if you have 150 women and 25% cheat that's 37.5 women cheating (yes I know there can't be 1/2 a cheater) so figure 37 cheaters and 13 single women sleeping with married men, perhaps?

Makes complete sense to me.
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Registered: 03-27-2009
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 5:27pm
Yet when averaged by other known factors......Women just denied cheating more often in surveys.....Men were a bit more honest.....Real solid #'s are about a 3-5% difference between men and women ...men only slightly higher odds...and falling.
Same as when men and women are asked how many partners they've had....men overstate....women understate. Cultural expectations affect self-reporting.
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Registered: 05-04-2006
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 6:03pm
>>..Women just denied cheating more often in surveys.....Men were a bit more honest.....Real solid #'s are about a 3-5% difference between men and women ...men only slightly higher odds...and falling.
Same as when men and women are asked how many partners they've had....men overstate....women understate. Cultural expectations affect self-reporting. <<

I figured there was a self reporting bias as well.

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