Am I too horny!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2009
Am I too horny!
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Sat, 09-22-2012 - 4:23am
I have been seeing an older man for about 6 months now and we have eatabllished a relationship. In the beginning the sex was not often but I chose to look pass that for the moment. I have an extremely high sex drive and i want it all the time. He takes medication for seizures and the side effects effect him sexually. We talked about it and he changed medications and told me that it takes a little time for it to take effect. I don't want to keep pressuring the subject but it is annoying that we are not having sex. He is not even attempring to please me in other ways, and he will say little things like he was feeling frisky the other day but did not follow through. Basically telling me what he is going to do to me etc and not following through. He says that he does not want to have sex and get me started and has to stop because he loses his erection. I really do not want to end the relationship over something that seems so small,but to me its a big issue! It is like an elephant in the room. I have never been the kind of person to really speak up about how i feel but i know this something that cannot be ignored any longer. He is asking me to be paitent but I don't know how much longer I can be paitent.
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 10:26pm

The problem could be with the medications he is taking.    Some people lose confidence in their sexual response.  In a man that means erection problems.  But there are ED medications available.  Now it is possible that he is not into as much sex as you are.

dragowoman

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Mon, 09-24-2012 - 6:25am

The purpose of dating is to get to know what a person would be like as a long-term companion. If you're not happy with the car during the test drive, you won't be happy owning it. So, the correct response to a less-than-satisfying date is to end the relationship and move on to the next one. It doesn't matter what the issue is--you're not obligated to stay in a relationship that doesn't meet your needs.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2009
Sun, 09-30-2012 - 3:55am
Thanks!