Am not sure if it's libido or something else?

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Registered: 04-20-2011
Am not sure if it's libido or something else?
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Sun, 05-01-2011 - 7:32pm

Hi there, am looking for a bit of advice around what I am going through in my relationship - hoping you guys can shed some light!

I've been with my current partner for nearly 5 years.

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Registered: 02-21-2003

To me it sounds like a CLASSIC low-libido situation: the absence of fantasies, the sameness of the sexual encounters, the lack of interest in experimentation, the lack of arousal from sexual "giving," and above all, the lack of urgency in his lovemaking. (As a LL woman I speak from personal experience here.)

There's about a one-in-ten-thousand chance this will change.

You have to either accept him as he is, deep in your bones, or part ways. If sex is important to you, and it sounds like it is, I'd recommend the second option.