balancing frustration with genuine need

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balancing frustration with genuine need
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Tue, 08-23-2011 - 9:09am

DH has been a bit frustrated for the past week or so, due to my having a broken molar that has abcessed.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 9:24am
>>I did have a moment of thinking "Don't I matter at all?" the other morning when he's in full initiation mode and my pain meds had worn off and the entire side of my head was throbbing. <<

I so know what you mean about the "don't I matter at all" moments. I have them too. Fortunately with my recent health crisis, DH has been pretty good about not "crowding" me for things I'm not feeling up to. I'm just in too much discomfort to be overly generous, although I know he still has needs. Unfortunately his "alternate" partner is not very available right now either (figures, doesn't it?) I am so glad DH will accept a HJ (even though it is a 20 minute or more option for us, not a "quickie")

I hope that you have a quick recovery for YOU, not for your DH! You do matter, even if it doesn't always feel that way to you. And for the record, I think you went about things just right last night.
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Registered: 08-11-2011
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 9:27am

I think he needs to cut you some slack and wait until you are not dealing with that pain anymore, it does not sound like it will be much longer.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 9:43am
>>Maybe offer to really make it up to him in a couple of weeks and suprise him with something, this might work<<

See, this I do not "get" Why does she need to "make it up to him" It's not like she's done him wrong, she's ILL for chrissakes! Why can the HL not just give the LL a break and care enough about them to realize that getting well is more IMPORTANT than getting laid?

Rant over, apologies to those I've offended.
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Registered: 12-10-2009
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 9:47am

TT, you are loving and generous.

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Registered: 08-11-2011
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 10:12am

I did not say she did him wrong.

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 11:37am

ITA with Miranda. Tiptoeing's DH sounds a little selfish and immature to me. (I want my candy bar NOW!!)

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 4:46pm

Tiptoeing Around-

If you normally are good with complying with your husband's sexual needs, he

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Registered: 05-31-2010
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 5:21pm

I can certainly understand where he'd be frustrated. He went from being able to have an encounter daily to not having anything for a week.

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Wed, 08-24-2011 - 11:32am

Your H is being a big baby.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 05-31-2010
Wed, 08-24-2011 - 3:25pm

I don't see him as being a big baby, after all he wasn't whining.

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