Beauty and the Beast

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Beauty and the Beast
Thu, 09-15-2011 - 5:38pm

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Thu, 09-15-2011 - 6:37pm
My wife is the beauty. I am the beast. I am sure my sense of inferiority affects both her desire for me and my willingness to perservere.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Thu, 09-15-2011 - 6:43pm
I think we are about the same when my DW takes the time and effort to fix herself up. However, I am very physically fit whereas my DW has let herself go a bit after having our two kids. We are both aging very well though. I look to be about her age even though she's almost 8 years younger.
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Thu, 09-15-2011 - 7:05pm

My gf, being so much younger than me, is far better looking but she has so many degrees of quality that I can't quite wrap my brain around it.

When we are alone she is much more relaxed and therefore prettier than when in the company of others. When she removes her prescription glasses I can finally see her eyes in their correct shape, depth, size etc.

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Thu, 09-15-2011 - 7:12pm
I think we're both equal at about an 8. I'm proud to be seen with him, and I'm pretty sure he's proud to be seen with me. We've both taken pretty good care of ourselves (especially him) and we look younger than our age.

If a man had no confidence and repeatedly expressed his sense of inferiority to me, it would most definitely dampen my interest in him. I've been on first dates with such guys, and there's never a second date.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Fri, 09-16-2011 - 2:55pm
I don't know how to assess this. It seems like DH is considered fairly physically attractive, but women oftentimes are put off by his somewhat overbearing personality. Maybe I should judge by level of interest when we have gone to swingers events....

I get a lot more interest than he does, but he still gets a pretty good response. I'd bet we were pretty close, maybe I'm a 6-7 and he's a 5-6?

Of course that is response in a controlled setting where the general population is our age or older....not the world at large...

I just can't answer this in any kind of meaningful way.
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Fri, 09-16-2011 - 3:19pm

How in the world do I answer this?

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Fri, 09-16-2011 - 4:35pm
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Fri, 09-16-2011 - 5:36pm

If she was asked this question I know she would say I'm Beauty and she is the Beast.

I'm fit / workout, she isn't / does not.

I get compliments about how good / young I look / she rarely does.

I think this has affected our relationship.

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Registered: 12-10-2009
Sun, 09-18-2011 - 12:58pm

The biggest issue we have is that DW regards herself as a Beast - her self-image is pants.

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Registered: 05-28-2011
Sun, 09-18-2011 - 9:38pm

I think and know for myself if the man has confidence a good sense of humor and takes care of hygeine then yeah, it's a turn on.