Becoming increasingly frustrated
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|Fri, 09-07-2012 - 12:00pm|
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now (we live together).
At first, he wanted sex with me all the time... Our sex life was great, and I was happy that he wanted me so much.
After a few months, however, he just let me know that that was a phase and sometimes he goes through them... He's just never really "needed sex". He enjoys it when he has it, but he doesn't need it all the time.
I have (since I became sexually active) always had a very healthy libido. I could be very happy with sex on a daily basis, or even every other day.
Now, it seems that he only initiates it when it's the weekend. On rare occasions, he'll be turned on during the week, but he made it clear that if he doesn't want it, he's not going to force it just because I want it because that feels wrong to him. I understand that, but I feel like only his needs are being met.
He continuously tells me when I'm hurt by this and ask about it that he still finds me very attractive and he loves me very much... He's just not that interested in sex. (of course, he still compliments me some way on almost a daily basis).
I'm just sexually frustrated... When I tell him, and I try not to bring it up anymore because I'm afraid of rejection, he just tells me that he doesn't know what to do about it.
I love him with every part of me, but I'm just not happy with the amount of sex we're having (the quality is excellent). I'm tired of being the one that has to initiate it most of the time, and getting turned down about 50% of the time.
Does this sound familiar to anybody else? What should I do?