Is birth control killing my sex drive?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-06-2007
Is birth control killing my sex drive?
Sat, 11-24-2012 - 12:51pm

I've been on birth control for about 10 years, and my drive has substantially descreased. My loving SO of over 5 years has been patient, but it's getting old and I feel horrible. I also work and go to school full time so I am constantly burnt out.

In a nutshell - this is all kinds of complicated.

I'm debating going off the birth control, since I've been on it for acne originally - and I hope by now my hormones have settled. I dislike being on any prescription, and coming off of this would mean I am completely prescription free. 

Anyone been in this boat before, or have any tips?

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 11-24-2012 - 4:08pm

  IMO you may need to have this looked at by a physician who specializes in sexual dysfunction.  I myself thin going off birth control without another form of birth control is not advisable.  Do you and your H want a pregnancy?  There may be other reasons for your lack of sexual feelings.  There are better birth control that is now available because of the new laws.  Many physicians did not prescribe these because of cost.  now that is covered by insurance.  However, it may not be the birth control.


iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 11-24-2012 - 5:44pm

I think you need to discuss this w/ your gyn to see if it could be related to the b/c.  I was on b/c for many years and never noticed that as a symptom.  I think your lack of desire could be more related to just being tired!  But if you do go off the pill, yes, you need to consult your gyn anyway about what other kind of b/c to use.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2009
Sat, 12-01-2012 - 4:23pm

I agree that you shouldn't just stop your birth control without deciding on another method to use if you and your SO don't want to become pregnant.  Your doctor can offer you a lot of options as well as help you determine if it is in fact the birth control affecting your sex drive.

But back to your original question, yes it is possible that birth control is affecting your sex drive.  It doesn't affect every woman using it, nor is it a side effect of every type of birth control, but yes it is possible.  If that is in fact causing a problem and on top of that you're stressed out and tired that's sort of like the anti-sex trifecta.  However reducing at least 2 of the 3 can greatly improve desire, but like any other aspect of a relationship it requires effort.

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