Boyfriend prefers porn over me in lingerie

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Boyfriend prefers porn over me in lingerie
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Tue, 11-29-2011 - 7:29am

I read this article and thought you might find it interesting.

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Tue, 11-29-2011 - 7:24pm

My only opinion is that the "Doc" didn't

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Tue, 11-29-2011 - 9:59pm

Exactly. She (Dr. Karen) is definitely assuming facts not in evidence!

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 8:16am
xisummit wrote:

Heck, we usually require more information on HERE than he had to go on.

Quack.

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Registered: 11-26-2011
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 9:39pm

Tasha and friend,

It sounds to me like your "man" (and I'm using that term loosely) just needs to grow up. Not to be prudish, I enjoy erotica as much as anyone (figuratively) but if he prefers porn over a real live woman, (especially one that is willing to strut around in front of him in sexy attire), then you either need to check and see if he still has a pulse, (ha ha)

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Registered: 12-21-2011
Wed, 12-21-2011 - 11:33am
My answer would be to sometimes strut nude where your boyfriend see something better than porn and where he knows he can get the real thing instead of computer, or you need to find a better boyfriend
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Registered: 06-27-2007
Fri, 12-23-2011 - 12:59pm

I think one of the issues with technology advancements is it at times makes pretend relationships more important than real ones.

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Fri, 12-23-2011 - 1:36pm

I agree with most of your post, but I see the issue of importance and reality differently. I think a person who prefers to watch sex or experience sex through any medium (as opposed to directly) is uncomfortable with intimacy. The preferred media may be spoken language, written language, images, video

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 12-25-2011 - 7:07pm

IMO it is much more complex than that. This could be a power struggle not seduction.

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Registered: 12-26-2011
Mon, 12-26-2011 - 2:51pm
I know exactly how you feel, my husband is also upsessed with porn. and he mostly wants to watch porn to make love... corection, to have sex. we dont make love we just have sex and there is also porn attached.
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Registered: 11-26-2011
Tue, 01-03-2012 - 7:25am

annerie,

If your boyfriend / husband NEEDS to have porn on to have sex, then there may be an emotional component missing. Maybe finding out what he likes sexually and changing your sexual routine, such as becomming more sexually aggressive, or seductive would be a turn on for him. Most porn is based on a fantasy scenario anyway. Women can get aroused by reading romance novels, or watching "light" porn, whereas most men prefer the action packed, in your face porn, but shouldn't prefer virtual sex over a real live woman...