Is this control or does he really need it every night??

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Is this control or does he really need it every night??
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Wed, 07-27-2011 - 10:47am

I wonder really how much of this is control, cause I highly doubt a 49 yo man really needs it every night - its just driving me crazy & ...he wasn't like this when I met him, however he started taking testosterone recently and hes def. not the same person - oogling at women, listening and watching xrated shows and wanting some sort of intercourse every night - lately hes been wanting anal (I guess cause he finally got bored) about 2-3 times a week.

please help - i work full time and completely exhausted - mentally and physically

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Registered: 02-21-2003

Maybe he needs his testosterone dose dialled down a bit. I once interviewed a doctor who went on testosterone and he told me that the initial dose was too high, with the result that sex was constantly on his mind. He had the dose lowered and found the happy medium he sought.

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"oogling at women, listening and watching xrated shows and wanting some sort of intercourse every night"

Um, a fair proportion of men?!

"I highly doubt a 49 yo man really needs it every night"

O, Reason not the Need!

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Registered: 05-04-2006
>>These questions are going to reveal my ignorance, but for what purposes do some men take testosterone, and what happens if a woman takes low doses of it?<<

Some men have lowered testosterone (especially as they grow older, or if they are being treated with certain types of other drugs.) So to put thing back to "normal" they take testosterone..it can be by patch, or injection. For men it helps maintain muscle mass, improve mental outlook, increase energy, etc. Women can and do take low doses (I do) it is typically in cream form (or sometimes patch.) It is said to improve sexual response/libido, as well as overall mood. However, the side effects for women (acne, increased facial and body hair, enlarged clitoris, deepened voice, etc) prove to be problematic for some.
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mirandarr8 wrote:
It is said to improve sexual response/libido, as well as overall mood. However, the side effects for women (acne, increased facial and body hair, enlarged clitoris, deepened voice, etc) prove to be problematic for some.

It can also ruin one's Michael Jackson impersonation act. :smileysurprised:

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tranquility_goddess wrote:

Does it also increase their libido? Their ability to have and maintain an erection? What are the possible side effects?


Thank you for educating me. :)

Yes, in fact, often it is ED or a drop in libido that spurs men to the urologist to get T levels checked in the first place.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
>>Does it also increase their libido? Their ability to have and maintain an erection? What are the possible side effects?<<

TG gave a very good answer about the sexual impact of taking testosterone. As far as side effects in men go, there can be some acne and voice deepening, as well as an increase in "risk-taking" behavior, and assertiveness/agression.

>>How long have you been taking it? Has it improved your libido? Have you had any side effects?<<

I've been taking it just over a year and half. It hasn't really improved my libido, but is has strengthened my sexual responsiveness. Yes, I have some side effects, but I had acne and excess hair before I took it, so it's not that big of a deal. I've been dealing with acne and hair since I was a teenager, so what's a little more?

You are quite welcome. It's not a sin to not know, it IS one to pretend you do...
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Registered: 05-04-2006
>>It can also ruin one's Michael Jackson impersonation act<<

LOL...or turn it into a melissa ethridge act!