crazy rant from an HL male with LL wife
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|Tue, 06-15-2010 - 2:50am|
So let me get something straight:
Sex is not important enough to be requirement for the maintenance of a marriage yet it's important enough to be the basis for divorce in the case of infidelity.
What if I said "Hey honey, you're a fat pig, so I'm going to have sex with other women because I don't find you desirable, and sex without desire is coercive to me…"
Clearly this attitude is offensive and abrasive; but how far off is the detached and cold indifference of a wife who has no emotional investment in the sexual well-being of her husband? It's merely a vocalization of the same sentiment. Perhaps it's worse because at least there is communication in the verbalization.
I might be naive, but it boggles my mind that women think they have no responsibility when it comes to maintaining a sex life with their husbands. If you want the luxury of a modern relationship based on one long-term life partner, you need to buck thousands of years of evolutionary engineering to prevent your husband from straying. This might mean leaving the orbit of your self centered female universe and consider doing something that might inconvenience your ovaries.
And before you tell me to "romance her with candles" or "take her on a romantic getaway" let me tell you that $200 and cheap motel room works too. Only, the easier alternative will lead to disintegration of the marriage and ultimate failure.
Which, of course, is the husband's fault, right?