As long as the emotional connection is there, even as a woman,
a lot of women complain about feeling like a sex object
My feeling is that this either happens because the guy isn't being sensitive to her feelings or is mainly focussed on himself or his own pleasure; or alternatively, it's because of unhelpful attitudes in the woman.
Well, sex tends to make things all better for my gf too.
In fact, she text me an hour after I left last night (no sex b/t us mind you) to tell me that she masturbated and it was especially good -
"HL Men, please feel free to comment on how you think your LL W feels about this."
The only time it's ever been an issue in my marriage was when I began to feel like all he was ever interested in was sex. Not talking to me, not doing things with me, just sex.
Speaking for w, I see evidence of the following thoughts and feelings in her regarding my HL (in this order of frequency and intensity):
1. She thinks I'm broken and/or all men are broken. Seeing me (and all men) as one-dimensional helps her feel superior and justify taking control of as many things as possible in our family. If she didn't, this sex-addicted man would screw everything up (literally).
2. She worries that my (past) using her as a sex object leads me to see
IMO all women secretly want to feel like a sex object.