I just want to add my 2 cents here. It is not anyone else's job to make you feel attractive. If you don't feel attractive, there's nothing anyone will be able to do to convince you for more than a few hours that you are. If you feel unattractive, work on it. Find a way.
I have this problem with my DH. He looks to me to "fix" everything that is missing in him. He doesn't feel attractive, he doesn't feel masculine, he doesn't feel useful, and on and on and on. It's a never ending hole though. Even if I do something to convince him, it's temporary, and it's like a drug, what works this time, won't work the next, it'll take even more, bigger efforts, grander gestures. Ultimately if you aren't happy with you, then you need to work on you. Don't make it someone else's fault or responsibility.
>>I can't ask my partner to make me feel attractive in general. But I can ask him to make me feel like HE is attracted to me.<<
Yes, but if you are using the latter to act like a band-aid for the former, you are teetering on the brink of disaster. Which is where my DH stands daily. It's no wonder nothing I can do is good enough, he doesn't think he's worthy, so there's no convincing him.