I've been dating this guy for 3 months. I'ma straight
Yes, I've had this situation. Almost. My ex was low libido (LL), would never initiate oral, hated public ass-grabs, only participated in limited positions, and didn't like talking about sex. I wouldn't describe him as "small," but he did have pronounced ED. The difference was that in the initial months, he was pretty horny. That dropped off in a big way and I've since found out that is rather common for LL's.
Chiming in with my experience, just some food for thought. In relationships prior to my M I had a very active sex life and I enjoyed sex very much. When I started dating my future H we did have sex and I experienced some of the things you are mentioning. I wanted oral sex and wanted to perform it on him, he would not have any of it. He was very conservative and only would have sex in the missionary position. I was at a point in my life that I wanted to settle down and have kids and future H had many good qualities, sex was the only issue. I figured since I had had my fun, I would be okay with a boring sex life. Fast forward to 12 yrs later and we are now separated. While there were other issues, the lack of a fulfilling sex life was a major one. There was no way for us to reconnect as a couple because of the lack of intimacy between us. I became less andless interested in sex with H because it wasn't fun and when I brought it up he made me feel dirty because I wanted to be adventurous. He felt that sex was for making babies and that was it. A lot of his thinking comes from being very conservative and religious. As I am entering the dating world again, at the top of my list is finding someone that has the same outlook on a healthy sex life as I do. That is the glue that holds the relationship together when things get tough.
People have told me that over time the physical stuff will work itself out, and that I should just give it time.
I HATE when people say stuff like this.
See, this is why I slept with my SO the first time we met. We
This post made me remember my dream last night... my fat, pregnant boss was on top heading for the 69 position and I had about 2 seconds of hesitation. After that, we went at it like yum yum donuts.
Now I can't even look over at her without blushing. LOL
Thank you for your
Best of luck; let us know how it goes. If he makes promises, then expect him to follow through. Words and promises to change are nice to hear, but concrete action speaks volumes, IMO.
scrappy_chick2005 wrote:I've honestly never heard of a normal guy who just didn't like (oral)
I've honestly never heard of a normal guy who just didn't like (oral)
Some people are brought up very conservatively and repressed. It sounds like he comes from such a background.
Anyway, have a talk with him. Hopefully, it will help things. Just realize that there can be huge differences in people's attitudes towards sex and in their desires.